The Blind Spot

As the evening had been growing long, the gathering was winding down.  Some…


Delayed Take Off: Inhibited Ejaculation

The plane sat still on the tarmac. Inside the passengers waited restlessly for…


The Avoidant Partner

Some people avoid intimacy.  Strangely, these people still form intimate…


The Quiet Man Who Shares Little

Who is that quiet mystery man?  He barely says a word.  His icy silence offers…


Emotional Safety

Marriage is a wonderful institution.  But who would want to live in an…


Did You Mean Intimacy or Sex?

It is held as a good value.  When it is missing, romantic partners complain of…


Curing the Sexless Marriage

Too many couples watch as days, weeks, months and years pass without having…


The Dangerous Allure of Perfection

There is no crime in wanting a good life or good love life. It is normal to…


Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying

Published: New York Times December 17, 2006 (Added to by Andrew Aaron, LICSW)…


Anatomy of Commitment

When lost in a delicious fog of love, many lovers propose the commitment of…


Bringing the Fight to Fear

Fear is a potent adversary. The fear that we will be harmed is common. Fear…


Love in Later Life

What is it about sex that it spawns so many myths and misconceptions?  Among…


Discrepancy of Sexual Desire

When One of You Wants Sex More Than the Other We are all different.  This…


Making Love Throughout the Day

    In our quest to create for ourselves the kind of love that is deep and…


Openness to Influence

Imagine if you need changes from your spouse or partner, such as spending more…


Me, Among Those I Love

A relationship is only as strong as the level at which the partners love…


Porn Pros and Cons

Pornography is not just negative.  Just like with guns, it's how they're used…


Love is Perfect

Love is perfect and we are not.  Our humaneness is at the center of our…


Gridlock: It's Knot Love

Romantic couples have a bad habit of getting tied up in knots. Each partner…


Viagra: Politics of the Little Blue Pill

With the introduction of Viagra in the late 90’s, many men who could not…


Why Do We Marry?

Why do we marry? It is a crazy thing to do. Talk to most married people and you…


Here Comes the Judge

Keeping a romantic bond close and positive is hard. With the rigors of daily…


The Effects of Jealousy: Poisoned Love

Jealousy poisons many relationships while searching for love's closeness.  It…